Top signs (pattern, not one bad day)
- Gaslighting / memory attacks
- Love-bomb then devalue cycle
- Contempt & put-downs
- Isolation from support
- Threats: kids, money, reputation
- Walking on eggshells daily
Printable
Offline kit
Print and store somewhere safe — gym bag, workplace, trusted friend’s house. Not on a shared fridge.
Crisis numbers (U.S. & Canada)
Both: Emergency 911 · Mental health crisis: 988 (call/text)
U.S.: DV Hotline 1-800-799-7233 · Text START to 88788
Canada national: 1-833-456-4566 (text 45645) · 211 · Hope for Wellness 1-855-242-3310 · sheltersafe.ca
Canada provinces (primary lines): AB 310-1818 · BC/YT VictimLink 1-800-563-0808 · MB 1-877-977-0007 · NB 1-844-853-0811 · NL 1-888-709-7090 · NS 1-855-225-0220 · ON 211 / 1-888-579-2888 · PE 1-800-240-9894 · QC 1-800-363-9010 · SK 211 · NT 1-866-223-7775 · NU 1-800-265-3333
Full Canada guide: canada-help.html on this site
Techniques
- Don’t JADE
- Gray Rock / Yellow Rock
- No Contact when possible
- BIFF in writing
- Document facts same day
- Boundaries = your actions
Mini journal template
Date/time: __________ Location: __________
What happened (facts): _______________________________________________
Witnesses: ________________ Impact: ________________________________
Evidence: __________________________________________________________
Date/time: __________ Location: __________
What happened (facts): _______________________________________________
Witnesses: ________________ Impact: ________________________________
Evidence: __________________________________________________________
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